A heated argument.
An emotionally charged debate.
Feelings of being stuck.
Unsure of what to do.
If you have ever been in any of these situations then the following will help you determine to get to the root emotions or feelings that will center you, align you and from which you can gather the energy and power to shift and see things from a different perspective.
Many times we have been told that we must shift our perspective or point of view. This question leaves a few things that must be addressed or answered in order to have the best possible information so that we can make that perspective shift.
"You cannot solve a problem with the same mind that created it." Albert Einstein.
So, whose or what mind should we then use?
THREE EMOTIONS TO HELP YOU SHIFT PERSPECTIVE:
Let's ask ourselves a few deeper and more thorough questions.
If I was confident I had the answer, how would I be feeling right now? What would I be saying? What would I be doing? If I had the confidence of being here before and having achieved the answer in the past, how relaxed would I be?
Asking ourselves these questions, shifts us from the emotional perspective of anxious, nervous, frustrated and desperate, to ones of being relaxed, calm, at ease and most importantly CONFIDENT.
Shifting perspective could be any way in which we move physically, mentally, emotionally in order to create a different state within us so as to see the "problem" with a fresh set of eyes, mind or heart.
We have rarely been taught to use our emotions to shift our perspective, as it seems that our main focus to shift has been physically or mentally.
Being in a calm state, we create the space for other emotions to flow. This "free flow" of emotions and thoughts, of being uninhibited is exactly what slows our prefrontal cortex down from leaning towards one set of actions, emotions or thoughts. It relaxes our planning and strategic and complex order system by allowing us to be more aware of where we are focusing on ONE thing for way to long.
Often, the hardest thing and the best thing to do, go hand in hand. To approach things from a calm perspective requires being aware of what we are favoring, and taking a deep breath to create the physical space, the emotional space and the mental space, to make a better decision.
If we take the calm perspective, we ask ourselves, "if I was calm right now, what would I be doing? How would my body feel? What would I be saying? What would I be focusing on?"
Courage comes from the root word "coeur" which means "heart."
And what exactly does it mean to have heart? Well, it means to believe that you matter and that you exist for a reason. It means to believe in what you say and in what you do.
Often, confidence is confused with arrogance - so please allow me to explain what I believe is the main difference in hopes of either confirming something you already believe, or creating a space for some thought that leads to subtle acceptance.
ARROGANCE - is the belief that what you do and say is right and you know and believe this to be true.
It is the belief that others are wrong and you are right.
CONFIDENCE - is the belief that what you do and say MATTERS and is relevant.
It is the belief that you might be wrong and are willing to express those beliefs no matter what in a way that is not intended to wrong anyone else.
Now, this is where COURAGE comes in and taking a courageous perspective can be helpful.
Courage is having the "heart" to express yourself confidently and vulnerably such that you are speaking YOUR truth, and not simply THE TRUTH.
I believe this perspective is beneficial because many of us have opinions and beliefs, we want to express how we feel or something that could add value, however, we keep from expressing it because we fail to connect with our "hearts" and the hearts of those we are seeking to communicate with and interact with over a fear of not being understood or of being told we are wrong.
The emotions of courage and heart are necessary and would lead to the following questions, "is what I am about to say or do, meaningful? Do I truly matter? Does what I am about to say or do have the ability to help someone in need? Is this simply for me, or is this for the greater good? If I don't speak up or take action, will I regret it?
These three emotions of CONFIDENCE, CALM and COURAGE can help us shift emotional perspective from a place of resourcelessness to a resourceful place of options, flexibility and choice.
Next time your in a place where you feel constrained or tight, seek to shift emotions rather than shift your physical state or location, or shifting mindset. Often, emotions are the most overlooked and the most useful.
You may not be able to shift your physical location or body posture. You may not be able to shift your thoughts or where you see yourself inside your mind. However, the choice to choose from which emotional perspective to act from and with, is always within your control.
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